Loss is a part of life—the hardest part—and it starts early. Grief has many faces and strikes every age. It is impossible to make sense of many terrible losses. Whether it’s death, a disabling injury, the loss of property, pets, health, friends, or a job—loss can make you feel like there’s a bull’s-eye on your back with no place to hide. One author wrote: “God marks across some of our days, ‘Will explain later.’”
How do you face loss? To the person who believes that God will never let bad things happen to people who live right, feelings of betrayal and bitterness can fester and finally destroy faith and trust in God’s power. In this world we are not always shielded from suffering—it is a part of our human experience.
Sometimes we are grieved with the thought that we have brought suffering on ourselves or into the lives of others through unwise choices. But God promises His cleansing forgiveness, the comfort of His presence, and continual strength and guidance. “He restores my soul…Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for You are with me — Your rod and staff comfort me.” God will not abandon you in your hour of need.
Emerging from the valley. Healing from grief is not quick and easy, but it is possible. Trust that you can and will heal. Believe that the day will come when you will be able to remember your loss without overwhelming pain. It takes time, because grief over loss usually involves a progression of emotions that ebb and flow. The course of grief is traced by numbness and shock, feelings of utter despair, anger, loss, and helplessness. Every griever walks through that valley. But beyond that there is hope, purpose, and a plan for your life.
Staying strong through suffering. Physical as well as spiritual nurture is vital during times of stress. Accept help from others, or ask for it if you need it, whether it is help cleaning, shopping, caring for the needs of the family, or your own need for company.
Take time to get into the fresh air and exercise each day. Stock up on fresh fruits and vegetables, healthful whole grains, and nuts. Avoid caffeine, alcohol, soda pop and tobacco; instead, stay hydrated and calm with water and soothing herb teas.
In this life the experience of grief can deepen our ability to participate in life. It can make us more grateful for what we have, more sensitive and trusting. It is often through the valley of suffering that the ministry of consolation to others is born in our hearts. Christ Himself is afflicted in all our sorrows, and He promises to guide us through the dark valleys in life. His love opens a channel into the wounded heart that becomes a healing medicine to those who sorrow — a medicine that those who have grieved can share with others.
(Submitted by Betty Dean. Used by Permission from www.lifestylematters.com. Courtesy of LifeSpring – Resources for Hope and Healing, Stuart, VA.)
